friends or just friends...

Well this will always be kind of unanswered question. Can a girl and a guy have that bff kind of bound?
In my opinion they can, in others they cant and in others others opinion mmm that's forbidden because they are obviously screwing. Come on now, really! don't you think they would already being there after a week or two if this was on their mind. Well I read all kind of blogs, newspapers, topics with this title and I still don't get it, can they?

 *or maybe never..

What I know is ...If one of them want to screw the other they would do it by now and they will do it eventually if they don't care about the rest. So if you are a girl, I'm writing from my point of view because I'm not having a facial hair and I definitely don't have, those 20+cm hanging between my legs to tell you from their point , but I can tell you this : If your boyfriend have a girl in his crew like for years (because friendship is based on years of building it) they already screwed each other before you and she is obviously out of the view since you are his girlfriend , fiance or wife right now and you don't have to worry about it because it had happened in past and that's past, you haven't been a saint -so face it. If they didn't do it by now they wont do it because they are just fiends and you have your guy friends ( find it if you don't, they don't bite, they can be friends with you and they are much more bff than girls), and if there was at some point attraction, that's also in the past... So get over that stupid thing that girl and boy can not be friends, they can . Now things change ... If that really bothers you , talk with him. He is your guy and before anyone he should be your bff and you should be his, so talk about it and clear the air. Now before you were his , he had friends, exes and all those girls there around, but since you got your place in his heart and life you should be the first girl he talks to about anything.He will chose you before any of them, if he is really your half. But there are those kind of girls that thinks that you stole from them and he belongs to them in first place, talk about that too. Here is a tip: become friend with his friends so you can know what happens in his friendship life. This way you get to know them all and see by yourself is there a truth or its just in your mind. If there is a girl who doesn't make a bound of friendship with you too, she doesn't make time to meet with you both , she calls him and writes him after midnight (here I dont ment sos sms) , she exchange those kind of 18+ or sexy or whatever photos  or she ignores her boyfriend to talk to yours, than that is a friend who wants to screw your guy. Because guys have a little limited thinking and they don't use their brain as far as we do, take the situation in your hand and deal with it , but like a lady. Always act like a lady. because you are one and you should act like it. Now back on girl - guy friendship... Me , personally , I really think they can be just friends but there should be some restrictions when you have a relationship and that you should talk with your half. As for you, make some boundaries between your guy friends so they know where they stand from the beginning.
We were talking about years of friendship, what about new one? that's easy. When you start to be friend with a new friend of opposite sex you just have to say "We are just friends, I am in a relationship and I'm not screwing you, ever!'' If they are still there, than they are JUST friends my dears. And for those who are oldies they should already know " We are just friends, this is what we signed for "

So we can be friends all of us as long as we know what we can and what we cant screw .


Xoxo Ybell